Ways to Fill your Empty Nest

When the kids start to gain independence and you start to notice you have a bit more time you may start looking for Ways to Fill your Empty Nest.  

Over this time  you may  feel more free to do and have what you want but it can also make you feel a bit lost and sad. It can be a roller coaster of emotions.

You may start to want to fill your empty nest by finding things that you never used to have time for when the kids were smaller.  Or you may feel that you want to change or adapt things on a daily basis so you feel you are making the most of your time.

Either way, read further to find some ways to fill your Empty Nest and feel amazing!

Feel amazing


1. Focus on You

If you have dedicated so many years to your kids then this can be a tricky one to get your head around.  But trust me, focusing on yourself is a game changer!

Nursery, school run, sports clubs, school plays, kids parties, days off work and cancelling things when they poorly, exam revision, driving lessons, missing nights out, kids clubs on holiday sleepless nights when they out clubbing, just to mention a few things we sign up to when our kids are at home.  I would not change any of this for the world.  However, when you are no longer needed for these things you can often find yourself with some free time.

You may be looking for ways to fill your empty nest so focusing on yourself is a vital part to making the most of this new phase.

Try and see this extra time as an opportunity to focus on something just for you.  It doesn’t have to be something extravagant (unless you want it to be!)  It could be lazing around for an extra hour in bed, a class or course you have always wanted to do, treating yourself to a new book, pedicure or go for a walk.  Think of the things you really enjoy or would love to try and think of your life now with fewer demands and less time constraints from the kids.   This could be the perfect time to reset and re-focus just on you.

2. Re-Discover your Partner

When you are spinning lots of plates keeping the family going,  the relationship with your partner can often be put on the back burner. Conversations with your partner will often consist of times and days and plans for the kids.  It’s normal, but when your nest becomes empty there is new found time and space to re-invest in that relationship.  

Making time for your partner can really help to take away the lonely feelings linked with empty nesting and can be a great way to fill your empty nest.

Reconnect with each other.  Go out for the day, sit quietly, look at old photos.  Remember why you fell in love in the first place.  It can be really romantic rekindling these feelings and add to a new exciting phase in your lives.


3. Tick off some things on your Bucket List

Paying for essential bills, school uniforms, school trips etc always meant there was not a lot of spare cash around for fun things or luxury items.  Many things were put on the back burner “can’t afford it”  or “not enough time”  Sometimes the opportunity has come but we have chosen not to take it due to our commitments.

Finding ways to fill your Empty Nest can sometimes be the perfect time to start planning and ticking things of your bucket list.  Or if you haven’t got a Bucket List, get one!

Personally, since I have experienced Empty Nesting, I am planning and starting to take all the trips that I have always wanted to take but never had the time or money to.  My Bucket List is getting ticked off and new things are being added.  It feels exciting to be having and doing things that have just been a thought or idea for so long.  It has made me feel alive and excited about my life now and in the future.  On top of that my kids are seeing me happy and enjoying life which makes them happy too!

bucket list

4. Find your Purpose and Passions


Finding and living your purpose can be life changing!  I have found, as I’ve been looking at  ways to fill an Empty Nest, it has been so interesting and it has also led me to work with more people on this subject both 1 2 1 and in my online group course programmes.

As the kids move on and need us differently we start to get to know ourselves again.  We find new things that bring us joy but we can also revisit some things from the past that we want to bring back into our lives.  This can be a really useful and thought provoking exercise.  Imagine your life full of Purpose and Passion.  It’s also something really great to tell you kids about when they come and visit!

Click here for your Discover your Purpose Worksheet


Want to know more about about easing the transition into Empty Nesting ?

Learn more here


 Empty Nesting in more depth is covered here in this book by Celia Dodd

You can read it here


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